I have been a long-time rescuer. Since I was a child I surrounded myself with people in need and offered to help them. I had convinced myself that I was helping everyone. But the truth is I was helping no one and maybe even making it worse. Why? Because I was validating them as a victim. Holding space for their suffering.

Instead, what I could’ve done was hold space for their empowerment. I could have investigated with them, why they were where they are and help them see that they can get themselves out of it. I could have offered them a compassionate witness to their life, rather than seeing them as needing my energy.

I’m glad to say I have begun to learn my lesson. Being an intuitive healer with helping guides helps. They remind me every day that no one is a victim. We are all divinely wise creating our experiences in order to learn.

So how can you tell if you’re empowering someone versus rescuing someone? Here are a few tips I use for myself to keep in alignment with the truth that I can help you grow as an individual, but I can not fix anything for anyone.

The self-help community talks a lot about being positive and using positive perspectives and perceptions to manifest. The books, tapes, and lectures all go over how your feelings can be changed to change your experience in any given situation.

But what if no matter what you do, you can't think positively? What if you are a totally connected person most of the time, but today you just can't see the good in the world? Is something wrong with you? Do you have a block? Are you losing your enlightenment? No, of course not. The human experience is designed to be a range of experiences. The good, the bad, the hard, the easy, all wrapped up into one giant box called life.

But here is the thing, our bodies are always helping us listen to our energetic health and what we are resisting or allowing. For example, when I am in a massage or physical therapy and they encounter a tight spot, my body flinches and protects the spot. It is painful and I don’t want to feel this pain. At this point in the massage, I have two choices, skip the spot or dig in deeper.

The importance of mental health is attributed to better overall health, with lowered stress responses in the body.

Many years ago, I was reading Dragonspell to my oldest son, when I ran across the perfect line. A line that I thought was so true I was inspired to blog on it. The line said "I'm changing so much on the inside. I keep learning things that seem to me I should have known all along."

How true this is? When you are in a self-transformation, the changes are happening in places no one can see, but everyone around you can feel. We are discovering things about ourselves and the world in a whole new way. Often, this new awareness and knowledge feel like things we should have known all along. Probably because we do know it, we just chose to keep it hidden until we were ready to remember.

Here are a few ideas for parents and non-parents alike to get you thinking of fun and interesting ways to begin a new career you can do from home.

I love my job! The conversations I have with the unseen helpers in our lives, always excite me. I am motivated by inspiration, intentions to help and the improvements I see in others.

I am not motivated by the concept of more. Torturing myself to perform unattainable goals set by others, but instead ushering myself into doing even more of what I love. So often I see people motivating themselves through fear or external validation. It keeps them from truly understanding what is theirs to manifest and their intentions are wishy-washy to the universe.

YOUR TRUTH IS ONLY YOURS

To me, we all have a pull to our own truth. A need to identify for ourselves what is and is not for us. We are always being called back to our higher, unified alignment. When we are ready to do it ourselves, your intuition guides you back.

As children, we start off looking at others for the truth but quickly begin to notice that there is a difference between our truth and those around us. It may cause us to rebel, act out, or conform to a way that isn't our true nature.

There are different ways to manage your stress and ensure your body gets sufficient rest to recharge for more tasks. If you look to be more efficient and boost your productivity, you need to care for your physical and mental health. Here are a few tips to get started:

The guidance I have received of “if you are not contributing love to it, you shouldn't put energy into it” can be challenging for me at times. They mean everything! In this fear-riddled world, with the media, the chaos, the intensity, sometimes love is challenging to offer.

School doesn’t end when you stop going to class. We learn new things every day, and there are benefits to that.

Nature therapy is amazing for all of us. Doing some nature walks with a four-year-old takes it to a whole new level. I remember taking a nature walk with my four-year-old near a stream. As we were walking, I noticed how the water rushed quickly in spots, slowed in others, and meandered through the trees. I noticed how the stream took the path of least resistance, rather than a straight line of efficiency. I also noticed how open and curious he was, with no agenda.

This is how energy works too. If there is a block, energy flows around the block. This leaves a block, of course, but it keeps moving never-the-the less. When you are flowing you are growing and that is what we all want, right? So this blog is asking you to know yourself to grow yourself, the law of attention.

Don’t be diminished by those around

Start by not diminishing others around you. Even if they are engaging in the shame, blame and judgment as a way to motivate you, don’t play. Go beyond those techniques of manipulation and control and start lifting yourself and other’s up.

If you struggle to do this, that is okay. Start somewhere. Notice that by just setting the mention to drop the need to be right all of the time, shifts your relationships and your life.

I started my energy healing business, as an independent contractor at a metaphysical shop nearby, in 2007. It was mostly for fun but as I began to get more experience, I also became more knowledgeable about how energy worked and how we could heal it. I moved out of the metaphysical shop and started to work out of my home, teaching classes in my basement.

By 2014, it was time to expand my business. I was working as many hours as I could, with two young boys to transport around and asking my young boys to be quiet while I held sessions. It no longer seemed fair to the family. So, I looked for an office.

As a busy entrepreneur, your time is likely stretched beyond thin. The last thing you want to read is another article explaining why you should be trying to squeeze yet another chore into your already-packed schedule. However, what if that “chore” could make your schedule—and life—substantially less hectic?

Enter self-care. You may not have time for stereotypical self-care activities, such as bubble baths and pedicures, but these suggestions are specifically targeted to help busy entrepreneurs like you decrease stress and increase productivity, creativity, and, ultimately, business success.