When you hit that strange stretch of life, where the calendar claims you should feel grounded but you don’t, it can feel like someone changed the rules without telling you.

Midlife crisis? Maybe.

But what if it’s something else?

You have heard it a thousand times from me and other self-help guidance counselors to "think positive" or "love yourself first." Of course you know that is what you are supposed to do. So why aren't you doing it?