How to Feel Worthy, Even When Rejected
Unemployment, divorce, or any kind of life experience where you feel rejected can feel devastating to your manifesting space. If you let it, these kinds of experiences can leave you feeling victimized, wounded, and unworthy to have the world work in your favor.
There are periods when we can also get convinced people only like us for what we can give them, not because they authentically like us. We get angry because we feel used and alone in our most vulnerable times of need.
But this doesn't have to be a blow to the manifester inside and in fact, can actually strengthen your abilities to create an authentic life.
False Foundations
Sometimes we establish relationships with people based on something we give them, and when we test the relationship by taking that thing away, we are shocked to find the relationship falls apart. For example, new jobs. You go into the interview, probably promising your devotion, hard work, and endless talent. You get the job and then kill yourself for months working hard to prove yourself. Then the steam starts to run out and you realize what you did was over-promise and the level of work you could sustain long-term does not match up with the expectations you have set.
You overextended your energy to prove yourself instead of standing in your authentic value and making that work for you. Then your work quantity starts to go downhill, and although it might be more reasonable, it isn't what you promised originally. Your employer is feeling annoyed. You feel like "What the heck? I have been killing myself for this person."
Yeah...and that is what they began to expect! You could apply this to any of your relationships. Did you promise something you couldn't sustain? Why didn't you start off authentically? You were afraid you were not enough straight away. You would have been better off to be rejected in the first place, rather than burn out your energy trying to be somewhere you don't fit.
Counting on Others When You Are “It”
Another scenario is that sometimes we are meant to be alone to work through some things. Although right now, all we want in the world is someone to hold us and tell us it will be okay, that person isn't there for a reason. You are meant to deal with things alone so you face them and work through them in your own energy.
Other people might put "fix it" energy in your space in a time we need to just be with something. “Fixing” it might be premature, especially if someone else does it when you are meant to. Sometimes we need space, even if we don't want it.
It is in the realization of your own strength and understanding of yourself that you find your life to be sustainable. When you are able to show up in ease and grace, have the world around you support that, then you are moving into authentic manifestation.
No Victims, Only Volunteers
Your experiences are not a punishment to victimize you (yet again). They are there to teach you about your authentic, powerful self. They reveal the limiting beliefs and situations you empower, hindering your growth. These situations help you stand tall in your own space, no matter what. Your soul came into your current incarnation to learn and expand as a soul. Every experience is the opportunity to do that.
You can use this rejected energy to curl up in a ball and feel sorry for yourself, or you can put that energy into healing your fears, and self-worth issues that have brought you here in the first place. Once you do that you can go to new places in the future and not replay old patterns.
Manifesting in Your Truth
Embrace every moment as a teaching, healing moment.
Consider journaling to these prompts:
Where do you feel rejected?
What is coming up in this rejection?
Do you feel alone, used, or undervalued?
How do you feel about this situation? Can you let those emotions be there?
What story are you telling yourself about this situation? Is the story true?
How could this situation be serving you? If you can’t see it now, can you surrender to it so you can see it eventually?
Perhaps you would like to change the situation or yourself but don't know how. It's okay. For now, just notice it and stay open and reflective.
One last question to consider: Could this situation be distracting you from a more important issue you need to address?
Allow every moment, no matter how hard, to be a moment of reflection for yourself. Rather than resist and try to get out of it, embrace it. Let it teach you. You are already suffering, why not get some value out of it? Why waste a good opportunity to learn?
Happy Healing.
